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My New Moon Rituals

I was born on January 2nd at 8:45 pm. Growing up, my parents would often talk about the night that I was born. Because, unlike my siblings, I’m the only one born at night. I have a deep love of staring at the moon & the night sky filled with stars & singing Somewhere Out There by James Ingram from one of my favorite childhood films, An American Tail. Even while looking in the mirror at my beautiful face, I see the moon in my birthmark & the stars in my freckles. Tomorrow, May 11th at 7:00 pm UTC is a New Moon in Taurus, so this felt like the perfect opportunity to share my new moon rituals to inspire you to create your own.

The new moon represents the start of a new lunar cycle, so it’s all about new beginnings & opportunities. It’s a great time to welcome all things new as well as set new goals or start new projects. With this in mind, here are my New Moon rituals:

Set Intentions & Refresh Manifestations

The New Moon is the best time to set new intentions & manifest! It’s the birth of a new lunar cycle, bursting with vibrant & magical energies. If you’ve never manifested before, I highly recommend doing it under every month’s new moon to bring your dreams into reality. I write my manifestations down with a pen & paper. I am as specific with my intentions, as possible without infringing on the free will of others, because I prefer to manifest for the greater good. Every night & morning, before saying my manifestations, I start by saying “This or something better now manifests for the highest good of all concerned.”

Light a candle

Once my intentions are set & I’ve written my manifestations with a pen & paper, I recite my manifestation under the moonlight & light a candle. I then let the candle burn through the night & allow it to extinguish on its own.

Clean

I spiritually cleanse my home, using my Camaya Healing sprays. (10% OFF with the code: DENISE10) Focus on the front door to your home & the most used doorways to welcome new & positive energies into your life. I also clean myself. I love taking a spiritual bath surrounded by crystals & candles to cleanse my body & my surrounding energies.

Embrace the New

Every New Moon, I embrace each & every new person, opportunity, & blessing that comes my way. New clients seem to somehow find me under the energy of the new moon. I’ve already had three reading requests this week. Having a welcoming & grateful mindset allows you to attract new & positive entities.

New Moon Manifestation Tarot Reading

Even though I prefer to not read my own cards if I can help it, I make an exception under the New Moon & the Full Moon. For the New Moon, I do a 6 card Tarot spread from Biddy Tarot to look into my own energy to see the following:

  1. What have I released?
  2. Where am I now?
  3. What is emerging within me?
  4. What do I wish to grow?
  5. How can I bring my goals and intentions to fruition?
  6. What additional resources are available to me as I manifest my goals?

As a writer, I envision my life as a story. Every New Moon is the beginning of a new chapter, & every Full Moon is the climax of that chapter. Each lunar cycle gives us an opportunity to create the abundant, beautiful, & happy life that we desire. It’s just up to us to embrace each new beginning as it arrives. If you’re feeling called to book a New Moon Manifestation Tarot reading with me, you can do that here.

Do you have any personal New Moon rituals? Let me know all about them in a comment below. I hope you enjoyed learning about my New Moon rituals as much as I loved sharing them.

XO Denise

10 Random Facts About Me

The best thing about you is your uniqueness. Even if you’re a twin, there’s no one else on the planet who is YOU. I’ve been having a bit of writer’s block lately, so today, I’m going to share 10 random facts about me. To stay inspired, I find that reconnecting with who I am & what I love is always the best solution to get my creative juices flowing again. These facts are completely random & in no particular order.

When I was in preschool, I pulled the fire alarm, despite being specifically taught that it was not a toy & only for fire emergencies.

When my brother was born, I started to act like a little rebel to get attention. While I was only 3.5 years old, I have a clear memory in my head of asking the yard duty during morning playtime if I could go inside to get the dollhouse that I brought from home that day. As I grabbed my dollhouse from my cubby, I distinctly remember pausing & looking up at the red metal fire alarm. I set my dollhouse down, then climbed on top of the cubby shelves & pulled the alarm trigger. As soon as the alarm sounded, I grabbed my dollhouse & ran out of the side door to escape the scene of the crime. No one knew that I was the one who pulled the alarm, but we had another group discussion about not pulling the fire alarm later that afternoon.

I love learning & school so much that I cry when I’m sick & not able to attend.

From Kindergarten through 8th grade, I attended a private Catholic school, St. Robert’s. I excelled in every subject & was consistently at the top of my class. We had hot lunches every Wednesday, & each grade would rotate computer day, library day, & PE day. In the 5th grade, I had computer class, library, PE, & hot lunch all on Wednesdays. It quickly became my favorite day of the week. This particular Wednesday morning, while my parents were on vacation in the Philippines, I woke up feeling terrible. Ultimately, I threw up & ugly cried to my older cousin, who was watching us while my parents were out of town, about NEEDING to go to school that day. Thinking about all the fun I missed that day still haunts me because I maintained perfect attendance every year that followed.

I didn’t realize that choosing to not do your homework was an option until high school.

I’m a proud nerd who always did her homework, reading, & class projects as soon as she got home from school. The only thing I procrastinated with was writing essays, but I’ve always been a good writer. I usually form a general outline of what I want to write in my head then bust out a paper in as little as 30 minutes the night before the writing assignment was due. Other kids proactively choosing to not do their homework was foreign to me, until I went to a public high school. The way teachers would publicly shame kids for not doing their homework in front of the entire class still irks me to this day.

I love BRUNCH!

It’s a favorite weekend pastime of mine to skip early morning breakfast to combine breakfast & lunch together while drinking bottomless mimosas, foamy cappuccinos, or spicy bloody marys with friends. If anyone wants to grab a meal with me to catch up, brunch is ALWAYS my first suggestion. I’ve even hosted themed brunches for my friends.

If there’s a breakfast burrito available on the brunch menu, I’m ordering it.

My love of breakfast burritos starts with my memory of getting McDonald’s breakfast with my paternal grandmother. I used to sleep over at her apartment over the weekend with my siblings, & on the mornings that we’d go out for breakfast, I always order the two sausage burrito meal with a hash brown & a small orange juice. In fact, if I’m ever getting McDonald’s breakfast now as an adult, I still order the same thing. Brunch menus can be overwhelming, especially when I’m trying out a new place. As a rule of thumb, if there’s ever a breakfast burrito on the menu, I think of my grandmother as if she’s helping me make a decision & order it in her memory.

My favorite breakfast meat is a circle sausage patty.

When I used to live with my brother, he used to always wake up early to cook us breakfast. Over meals, my brother & I would always get into random topics & deep conversations. One morning we discussed our favorite breakfast meats & that’s how I discovered that I love sausages, but even more so when they’re shaped in a circle rather than the standard sausage link. I even prefer to buy a sausage roll to create my own circle sausage patties to create that perfect sear on each side. My mouth is watering just thinking about it.

I love deep conversations & hate small talk.

Piggybacking off of my previous fact, I hate small talk i.e. “How’s work?” & “What are you up to this weekend?” Instead, I’d rather talk to people about things with real substance, so that we can get to know each other on a deeper level. Once, my brother & I discussed which level of hell we belong in based on Dante’s Inferno, while I watched him play the Dante’s Inferno video game on PlayStation. I love learning about another person on a deeper level. I love how everyone thinks & sees themselves in a different way, so I prefer to get a glimpse into a person’s true nature by seeing the way their mind works through a deep discussion.

As a former bank teller, I organize the cash in my wallet by aligning the president faces in the same direction.

I hate when someone hands me cash & the bills are unorganized & facing every which way. I immediately restack the cash that I’ve been handed before placing it in my wallet. I’m also usually the go-to when combining cash when planning to pay for a large group at a restaurant. I’m always able to quickly collect everyone’s cash, reorganize the bills, count the bills effortlessly, & give anyone change with ease as needed. If anyone is considering being a bank teller, I say go for it! I learned so many valuable professional skills in my three years as a bank teller.

I always fold my laundry straight out of the dryer & put it away immediately.

While I prefer to keep my spaces clean & tidy, I tend to get lazy when it comes to my laundry.  Washing & drying is not the problem… it’s folding, hanging, & putting my clothes away that gets to me. In the past, when I didn’t fold my laundry straight out of the dryer, my clothes would end up staying unfolded, wrinkled & sitting in a hamper for a week or even worse, until my next laundry day came around because I would just pull whatever I need from the clean hamper. By folding & putting everything away straight out of the dryer, my clothes are always wrinkle-free & neatly organized.

I prefer the aisle seat when traveling.

Most people love the window seat, but the aisle seat has so many more perks in my opinion. I’m a very light sleeper, & I have sleep apnea. I’m usually not able to sleep on long flights, so I love that I can freely get up to use the bathroom or stretch my legs without disturbing anyone. I also have more legroom with the aisle once drinks, snacks, & meals have been served.

I hope these 10 random facts about me give you all a deeper look into my mind & allow you to feel like you know me better. Personally, I feel like I have the best meditations, readings, & sound baths with people that I feel I really know as opposed to a stranger that I’ve never interacted with.

When you exchange energy with someone, it allows them to feel more connected with you & you’re both able to effortlessly tap into each other’s energy. With that said, I hope that this glimpse into my past, who I am, & what I love compels you to book a personal reading because you feel closer to me. Always embrace who you are & what you love. No one else gets to tell your story, so share it as often as possible to anyone who will listen.

XO Denise

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How To Be Emotionally Available

Most relationship bloggers I come across always write about “How To Deal with an Emotionally Unavailable Man”. Today, I want to switch the perspective to focus on you. Because if you’re attracting emotionally unavailable partners, the bigger root of the issue is that you’re most likely not emotionally available either. You attract partners who match your energy & vibe. Don’t immediately blame your partner for their emotional unavailability. Take a close look at yourself in the mirror, & realize that your heart isn’t healed, open to new love, or ready for an unconditionally loving relationship either. It’s time to learn how to be emotionally available!

Choosing Emotionally Unavailable Partners

I have a long history of choosing emotionally unavailable partners. I proactively stayed single until I was 18 years old. As a college-bound nerd, I didn’t even want to think about actually having a boyfriend in school. I didn’t date anyone until after securing my 3.8 GPA & getting my early acceptance into the University of California system. But waiting until I was 18, didn’t actually help me much in the dating department. Instead, I was too young & unsure of who I was or what I even wanted in a boyfriend.

Over time, I learned that having a crush isn’t a good reason to get into a relationship. In fact, it’s during the early stages of infatuation that you need to stay the most alert. Always stay rational to ensure you’re not just getting swept up by your hormones.

To be emotionally available, you need to be just that. You have to let yourself feel your emotions but not let them cloud your judgment. Allow your partner to move through their emotions, empathize with how they feel, & reassure them that their feelings are valid. This is also emotional intelligence. When you’re emotionally intelligent, you open your heart to love & allow others to open their heart to you without fear.

Be Yourself

No matter how terrifying it is to be intimate & vulnerable, be yourself. If you’re putting up a facade to keep someone interested, you’re asking for trouble. Let’s consider my favorite Disney movie, Aladdin. Princess Jasmine developed feelings for him as a poor, thieving, street rat, but Aladdin refuses to listen to Genie’s encouragement to be himself. Instead, he creates an elaborate scheme to make Jasmine believe his lies as Prince Ali Ababwa. By being himself & telling the truth, he would have prevented so much unnecessary conflict. No matter how long & hard you try to pretend to be someone you’re not, your mask will eventually fall off. Let your partner see your true colors.

In my worst relationships, I would betray myself out of desperation & not wanting to be alone. I changed my appearance, my diet, my hobbies, & my lifestyle to become whomever my partner wanted me to be. Instead of staying true to myself, I dyed my hair blonde, straightened my hair, got expensive blowouts, wore tons of makeup, got eyelash extensions, & ate Paleo. I also learned how to breakdance, pop & lock, do Tae Kwon Do, & rock climb to “convince” my partners to fall deeply in love with me.

In my best relationship, he loved the natural texture of my hair, so I embraced my natural curls. Wearing makeup 24/7 to cover up my birthmark or freckles was unnecessary because he already saw me without makeup the weekend that we met. He made me feel irresistible & sexy while wearing basketball shorts or sweats. No guilt-tripping me into staying home with him instead. He was genuinely happy for me when I’d go to brunch, wine tastings, basketball games, concerts, or stand-up comedy shows with my friends & siblings. He encouraged my healthy habits of regularly attending RUMBLE boxing & SoulCycle classes. I could enjoy what I love to do & look however I wanted & still feel beautiful & perfect to him.

Love Unconditionally

Lastly, learn to love your partner unconditionally. If you’ve never been truly emotionally available, you’re setting yourself up to be loved by partners who put up a facade. They keep their options open, just in case, & keep secrets, & to control the relationship & you at all costs. Being emotionally available is taking a true leap of faith to allow another individual to love & see the real you. Open your heart to someone who wants to fall in love with all of your darkness & ugly sides, just as much as your beautiful ones. Even in your ugliest moments, trust that your partner will empathize & stay because being truly emotional available starts with you.

XO Denise